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Eleven Months Later

Altadena, CA. Nearly a year after the Eaton Fire carved its way through the foothills, the town is still living in its shadow. Eleven months sounds like enough time for life to snap back into place, but for many families, the calendar doesn’t match reality. People are still scattered across borrowed bedrooms, spare couches, and motel rooms that were never meant to be home. Entire neighborhoods feel like they’re holding their breath.

Dec 30, 2025

My husband told his family I was unfaithful

Dear Uncle Gary, My husband told his family I was unfaithful, and now I feel exposed and ashamed. Can we rebuild trust after something like this, or do I need to accept that his loyalty to his family is greater than to us? Signed, The Cheater Dear “The Cheater, First, let’s strip away the label. You’re not a headline. You’re a human being who made a mistake, or maybe didn’t, depending on the full story, and now you’re standing in the wreckage wondering if anything can be rebu