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Eleven Months Later

Altadena, CA. Nearly a year after the Eaton Fire carved its way through the foothills, the town is still living in its shadow. Eleven months sounds like enough time for life to snap back into place, but for many families, the calendar doesn’t match reality. People are still scattered across borrowed bedrooms, spare couches, and motel rooms that were never meant to be home. Entire neighborhoods feel like they’re holding their breath.

Dec 30, 2025

Soulmates

Dear Uncle Gary, I told my date I don’t believe in soulmates. She said, ‘That’s so sad.’ Is it? Signed, So Sad Dear So Sad, Not sad. Honest. Believing in soulmates is like believing your perfect pair of jeans is out there somewhere, waiting to hug your thighs and never betray you. It’s romantic, sure. But it’s also a little lazy. It assumes love is found, not built. What you said, I don’t believe in soulmates , isn’t a rejection of love. It’s a vote for choice, for effort, fo