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Eleven Months Later

Altadena, CA. Nearly a year after the Eaton Fire carved its way through the foothills, the town is still living in its shadow. Eleven months sounds like enough time for life to snap back into place, but for many families, the calendar doesn’t match reality. People are still scattered across borrowed bedrooms, spare couches, and motel rooms that were never meant to be home. Entire neighborhoods feel like they’re holding their breath.

Dec 30, 2025

Curious but Cautious

Dear Uncle Gary, I’ve been dating someone wonderful for about six months. We laugh a lot, the chemistry’s great, and I’m genuinely crazy about her. Lately, I’ve been wanting to go deeper, share more of myself, and learn more about her. But whenever I ask about her family or her past, she either changes the subject or says she doesn’t want to talk about it. At first, I chalked it up to privacy or timing, but it’s starting to feel... off. I even tried looking her up online. Not

I’m five months postpartum with our second child, and I’ve been carrying around about 40 extra pounds since the pregnancy

Dear Uncle Gary, I’m five months postpartum with our second child, and I’ve been carrying around about 40 extra pounds from the pregnancy. Things have been tender and exhausting, and intimacy with my husband has all but disappeared. He never initiates anything anymore. The few times we’ve had sex since the baby came, it was because I initiated sex. This morning, something strange happened. A package arrived in the mail, no return address, just a plain brown envelope with gene