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Eleven Months Later

Altadena, CA. Nearly a year after the Eaton Fire carved its way through the foothills, the town is still living in its shadow. Eleven months sounds like enough time for life to snap back into place, but for many families, the calendar doesn’t match reality. People are still scattered across borrowed bedrooms, spare couches, and motel rooms that were never meant to be home. Entire neighborhoods feel like they’re holding their breath.

Dec 30, 2025

My adult child just came out as trans

Dear Uncle Gary, My adult child just came out as trans. I want to be supportive, but I’m terrified of saying the wrong thing. Where do I start? Signed, Confused Dad Dear Confused Dad, Let me start by saying this: your willingness to ask this question, to lean into the discomfort and uncertainty, is already a powerful act of love. You’re showing up. And that matters. Now, when your child comes to you with something as deeply personal as their identity, it’s not just a moment;