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Eleven Months Later

Altadena, CA. Nearly a year after the Eaton Fire carved its way through the foothills, the town is still living in its shadow. Eleven months sounds like enough time for life to snap back into place, but for many families, the calendar doesn’t match reality. People are still scattered across borrowed bedrooms, spare couches, and motel rooms that were never meant to be home. Entire neighborhoods feel like they’re holding their breath.

Dec 30, 2025

I just turned 40 and still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up

Dear Uncle Gary, I just turned 40 and still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. Is that normal, or am I just lost? Signed, Peter Pan Dear Peter Pan, First off, welcome to the club. Membership includes artists, accountants, baristas, and I know at least three retired dentists who still don’t know what they want to be when they grow up. You're not lost. You're just alive. Forty isn’t a deadline. It’s a checkpoint. I totally changed my life at forty. I’m in the process