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Eleven Months Later

Altadena, CA. Nearly a year after the Eaton Fire carved its way through the foothills, the town is still living in its shadow. Eleven months sounds like enough time for life to snap back into place, but for many families, the calendar doesn’t match reality. People are still scattered across borrowed bedrooms, spare couches, and motel rooms that were never meant to be home. Entire neighborhoods feel like they’re holding their breath.

Dec 30, 2025

I’m a 65-year-old woman who’s been divorced for over a decade

Dear Uncle Gary, I’m a 65-year-old woman who’s been divorced for over a decade. I raised two kids, built a career, and now I’m retired with a little house, a garden I love, and more quiet than I know what to do with. Here’s the thing. I’m not lonely exactly, but I do miss being touched. Not just sex, though I wouldn’t say no to that either, but the little things. A hand on my back. Someone brushing hair out of my eyes. That feeling of being seen and wanted. I’ve tried dating

I'm recently out of a twelve-year relationship.

I'm recently out of a twelve-year relationship. I'm a fifty-five-year-old gay man, and I don't know where to start. I used to have a nice body. I think I'm still good-looking, but when I go out with friends, I never meet anyone. Everybody is so young. Signed, Need A Bear Hug Dear Need A Bear Hug, First of all, I’m going to gently suggest we retire that nickname. You’ve been through a twelve-year relationship, that’s a lifetime of shared routines, inside jokes, and probably a