Dear Uncle Gary, What do most people misunderstand about getting older, and what do you wish you had understood sooner? Just turned 40 Dear Just turned 40, Most young people think that getting older is a decline. It isn’t. It’s a refinement. We’re sold a narrative that aging means becoming less relevant, less desirable, less capable. In reality, what diminishes is tolerance for nonsense, for misaligned relationships, for chasing approval. In 2018, I was diagnosed with lympho