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Eleven Months Later

Altadena, CA. Nearly a year after the Eaton Fire carved its way through the foothills, the town is still living in its shadow. Eleven months sounds like enough time for life to snap back into place, but for many families, the calendar doesn’t match reality. People are still scattered across borrowed bedrooms, spare couches, and motel rooms that were never meant to be home. Entire neighborhoods feel like they’re holding their breath.

Dec 30, 2025

How do I know if my goals are realistic?

Uncle Gary, How do I know if my goals are realistic? Signed, Dreamer in Duluth Dear Dreamer in Duluth, If they scare you but don’t paralyze you, they’re perfect. The right goal should make your stomach flip a little. It should whisper, “This might be too big,” while your gut replies, “Let’s try anyway.” If you’re frozen, it’s too much. If you’re bored, it’s too little. But if you’re nervous and moving forward, that’s the sweet spot. Signed, Uncle Gary

Why Uncle Gary?

This picture means more to me than I can put into words. That’s my nephew, who we lost too soon, and my niece, who still lights up every room she walks into. They’re the reason Ask Uncle Gary exists. See, when you’ve been “Uncle Gary” long enough, you learn that advice isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about showing up. Listening. Offering a little perspective, maybe a laugh, and reminding folks they’re not alone in whatever they’re facing. Every time I sit down to wri